1. Don't yell out instructions: During the game I'm trying to concentrate on what the coach says and working on what I've been practicing. It's easier for me to do my best if you save instructions and reminders for practice or just before the game.

2. Don't put down the officials: This embarrasses me and I sometimes wonder whether the official is going to be tougher on me because my parents yell.

3. Don't yell at me in public: It will make things worse because I will be upset, embarrassed or worried that you are going to yell at me the next time I do something wrong.

4. Don't yell at the coach: When you yell about who gets to play what position it just stirs things up and takes away from the fun.

5. Don't put down the other team: When you do this you're not giving us a very good example of sportsmanship so we get mixed messages about being "good sports."

6. Don't put down my teammates: Don't make putdown remarks about any of my teammates who make mistakes. It takes way from our team spirit.

7. Don't lose your cool: I love to see you excited about the game but there is no reason to lose your temper! It's our game and all the attention is supposed to be on us.

8. Don't lecture me about mistakes after the game: Those rides home in the car after the game are not a good time for lectures about how I messed up. I already feel bad. We can talk later, but please stay calm and don't forget to mention some of the good things I did.

9. Don't forget how to laugh and have fun: Sometimes it is hard for me to relax and have fun during the game when I look over and see you so tense and worried.

10. Don't forget that it is only a game: Odds are I'm not going to make a career out of playing sports. I know I may get upset if we lose but I also know that I'm usually feeling better after we go and get pizza. I need to be reminded sometimes that it is only a game.